Being a newly married couple with both families in the same town and the holidays around the corner have made me stress a bit.
What family gets us at what time?! Assuming they both want us...
How have you dealt with sharing holiday times with both sides of the family?
I want to make it as fair as I can and not favor one side. Luckily we were able to set both Thanksgiving dinners apart from each other, BUT I worry more about Christmas morning.
What to do...?!
7 comments:
You should never worry about what to do. Don't stress and remember that your new family takes first spot! We will take you when we can and as much as we can but never stress about what to do. Love you darling!
Haha this is our same dilemma. We have both sets of parents, plus 3 sets of grandparents local,and the other grandparents within driving distance. Our first married Christmas, we did Christmas Eve at my Grandparents.Christmas day started at 4am, to Brad's parents by 6am, my parents by 8am for breakfast. Caught Brads Woodville Grandparents at 10:30 on our way to Quincy to see his other grandparents for lunch. Then we drove to Alabama to see my family up there. Whew! Crazy day! Now that Raelee's here there's no way we can keep that up, so we're not sure what we're doing this year. Good luck!
We have the same dilemma!! As you saw in Shelley's post... So I have no clue what we are going to do.... Plus added into our mix is the fact that we both work night shift. We have saturday (starting at 7am) and sunday off, but we work all night Christmas eve... oh well... we will get a system! Good Luck!
Oh the joys of married life! :) Some people do every other year for holidays and see the other side before/after the holiday. We've tried to split it which is hard too. Todd's family does their Christmas on Christmas Eve so that makes it a little easier. The first year we were married we did Christmas Eve morning with Todd's parents and then drove to South Florida to spend Christmas with my family. Last year we did Christmas Eve in Tally and then drove to St. Augustine that night to wake up there on Christmas morning. We're still ironing out this year.
Your mom is right--the most important thing is your family (you and Lance). It's not as hard to split holidays before kids but it's still hard. We decided we are going to start our own Christmas traditions and try to fit our parents (and siblings) in where we can. Seeing family on holidays is important but so is being able to enjoy the holiday without being a traveling fool! :)
Ok here you go. I think a lot of people forget that once they are married they now start their own traditions, so just have Christmas morning with your hubby... Just think, if you figure out now how to work out Christmas morning, you'll be stuck that way all the way up until you have kids, so make it easier and always have your Christmas morning be about your family, and then visit your families throughout the day... I don't know; I feel like I want my family (even if it is just two of us for a while) to have alone time on one of the most important holidays of the year.
I agree with the others that you need to do what is best for you and Lance right now. Start the traditions now so that when you are blessed with children, there is no question what you will be doing for the holidays.
One thing that worked for our family, was when Glenn and Shawna got married, they decided to split Thanksgiving and Christmas. One year, they would go to Shawna's family Thanksgiving dinner, and Christmas with us. Then the next year, We had Thanksgiving and Shawna's had Christmas. It seemed to work really well!
Please do not stress, that is not a good way to spend the holiday season! I believe that your mom said it wonderfully! Good luck!
Well, hopefully I'm making it easier on you this year by snatching Bryan out of town until Christmas afternoon. Though I still have to deal with my own parents giving me guilt trips for not spending enough time with each of them (since they are divorced). And then there are is the part of my family that will get together for the non-Christmas Christmas dinner. Anyway, have fun with Jonathan Toomey... ;-)
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